I'm Back! Beware

So I took March off as it was my birthday month, and I thought to myself. "Self, take this time to reflect on your life, the past year, and take in this month."

That's exactly what I did. I put down the computer. Logged a little less social media time, and got back to some of the basics. I was able to spend more time with my family. Which really helped to rejuvenate the senses, and helped me to stop and take a look around at what I have all accomplished in my life.

Not too long ago my coach had an exercise where I would close my eyes, and envision myself when I was younger. She then asked if the younger version would be proud of who you are and where you are in life.

There was more to that whole interaction but I wanted to really highlight that part of the exercise. Because that's exactly what I did this past month.

I looked at my life with new vision. With new sight. With the ah and wonder of someone who is just seeing it for the first time.

I looked at my life with the eyes of my younger self. Who was really just amazed at all that I have already accomplished in life. The little boy was just so happy and inspired at the relationships I have built, and continue to build. The people that I have helped, and really just where I am in my life.

I know that it is so easy to feel jaded in your life. To expect to be somewhere and not being there yet. To think that you should be more, or have more, or do more. Like I, you might see someone who is younger than you, but looks to be more successful than you are. Which can really be a killer.

But we all must remember that we go through life in our own pace. Also, just because someone looks to be successful, happy, joyful, positive on the outside. Doesn't necessarily make it to be true. Humans are quickly becoming the masters of disguise so we don't have to interact with anyone.

If I can switch gears here for a little bit.


I am not going to tell you what success is. That is for you to decide what it is in your life. I'm not going to ask you what your version of success is.

I want to hit on our approach to success. So so so many people think that success is more of a straight line. Maybe a couple dips here or there, but more or less straight to your goal.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Success isn't a straight line, just as working yourself to death is going to get you there any faster.

You NEED to take some time off. I talked about this before, and there are many versions of this story. But think of your body as a high performance vehicle. A Ferrari. Now would you but just any old regular gas in that Ferrari? Would you just take it to any old mechanic to do maintenance, oil changes, tire rotations, etc. on it?

No, you would take care of it. You would put premium gas in the tank. Take it to specialty mechanics that know the in's and out's of the vehicle.

Would you constantly red line your Ferrari every time you drive it. Put the pedal to the metal. Take it to the highest RPM's you can? Absolutely not! You would take special care of it. You would accelerate within the acceptable speeds, and decelerate that same way.

Would you do that to your body? Red line it until your blow a gasket? Hell no!

So why do you do it? Why do you not take time off? Why do you not slow down?

Why does slowing down have such a negative attachment to it?

Just because you slow down doesn't mean you aren't going forward. Some times you need to slow down, and even stop in order to go further ahead. I've talked about this with the change you need in your life. There are even times where you need to stop, and go back the way you came. In order to go ahead further than you have ever gone before.

Do yourself a favor. Take a break. Take some time off. Take the weekend. Go on a vacation. Plan a night away. Get a hotel room just for the hell of it. Try something to help elevate your mind, and your soul.

Jonathan Scharinger