Let me just start and stop this right here.
If you are waiting on someone or something to come and save you. Or to come and make things better for you.
YOU ARE WRONG!!!
Not only are you wrong, but you will be continually disappointed, and worst of all you will fail.
*Side note. Just because you fail doesn't mean you are a failure. You will only be a failure - in anything - when you give up and quit.*
I hope and pray that you are not one of the people out there that is waiting on your "prince charming," or your "fairy God mother," or your "bro".
Neither one of them will come and save you, and certainly nothing in between.
You NEED to do it for yourself.
You NEED to set yourself up for success.
Yes that is what this is all about. Setting yourself up for success.
You might be thinking "what the hell does that even mean." You might have even asked friends, family member's, mentors, haters. Pretty much anyone that will listen.
"What is 'Success' anyways."
Very simply. Success is whatever you think it is. But, the problem for most people is that they don't know what to think. So they have no clue what success even looks like. It could be staring them in the face and they would still think that they are doing things wrong.
Ok. To be a bit more specific. Success is what makes you happy. Does that help you out?
But you must be comparing apples to apples here. You can't be comparing apples, to say, corn.
First off. Do not measure your success based on other people. You will lose every time. You will find something you like of theirs better. Or something they do better. or whatever.
Measure your success on what you did yesterday, a month ago, a year ago, 5 years ago, etc.
When I mentioned to measure apples and apples. I meant that if your measurement of success is financially. Then don't look at how many friends you have and think you are not successful. Likewise, if you think being able to be home every night with your family. Being able to eat dinner together, talk about your day together, watch a movie together. If that is your idea of being successful. Don't be going out and chasing the almighty dollar.
I am telling you this because if you are aligned "mentally." what your wants and desires are will not match what your values are. So you will always lose. You will always be sad and negative, and you will always think you are un-successful.
Now that we are aligned. We know that being at home with our family is our measurement of success. Don't ruin it by comparing your family time with your neighbors, or your friends, or your co-workers, or the people you see on social media.
That's what I was talking about when I said measure your success by what you did yesterday, the day before, the month before, and the year before.
Because your level of success is determined by outside factors, along with how your life went. And as we all know. No two lives are lived the same. So you can't measure them equally.
In the mindset of having a successful family life. I would say a way to do better the next day. Is to build upon the relationships you already have. Or how about increasing the happiness in those around you. Maybe institute game nights, or get out doors.
Your success in whatever you want. Is 100% based on you, and what you are going after.
Don't measure yourself against anyone else. And most definitely do not compare what you think is success with something that is completely different.
Work on the little things. Little things can add up to be a lot when you look back. Don't rush the process and have fun.